After a rope scene

Aftercare

  • Negotiate for specific aftercare needs before starting a scene.IMG_5585
  • Sometimes aftercare needs vary or are unpredictable.
  • Aftercare isn’t just for bottoms!
  • Common aftercare needs for tops include needing validation (“you did great!” “I still love you” “I don’t think you’re a bad person, even though you just did “bad” things to me”), reassurance that the bottom is physically and mentally OK, food and/or water, physical comfort like cuddling, or orgasms!
  • Common aftercare needs for bottoms include getting physically warm (blankets, cuddles, and maybe stuffed animals are classic), having something to drink (many bottoms swear by coconut water, sports drinks may also be a good choice), comfort, reassurance, and validation (“you did great!” “you looked really sexy in that tie!” “You were super responsive and fun to tie up”), or… orgasms! 😉
  • You’ll notice there’s a lot of overlap there!

Moving slowly after being untied

  • After a scene, the bottom should slowly begin to move bound extremities.
  • Body parts that have been bound for a while may have lost a bit of muscle tone, and strong or sudden movements can cause sprains.
  • Well-meaning tops often try to move a part of the bottom’s body for them; this can cause injury.

Rope marks

  • Remember that rope marks are compressed tissue; compressing them more (by rubbing them) will not be helpful. Enjoy your rope marks!

 Next: Get into more detail about nerve damage, perhaps? Or read more about health negotiation for bondage?

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